CCI’s Victim Services Advocate works with the Storey and Lyon County justice systems to ensure that victims are provided the attention and support they need to leave traumatizing and abusive situations. Our Victim Services Unit and program staff tied purple ribbons all around Virginia City recently to bring community awareness to this critical public health and safety issue.
Does your partner ever….
- Insult, demean or embarrass you with put-downs?
- Control what you do, who you talk to or where you go?
- Look at you or act in ways that scare you?
- Push you, slap you, choke you or hit you?
- Stop you from seeing your friends or family members?
- Control the money in the relationship? Take your money or Social Security check, make you ask for money or refuse to give you money?
- Make all of the decisions without your input or consideration of your needs?
- Tell you that you’re a bad parent or threaten to take away your children?
- Prevent you from working or attending school?
- Act like the abuse is no big deal, deny the abuse or tell you it’s your own fault?
- Destroy your property or threaten to kill your pets?
- Intimidate you with guns, knives or other weapons?
- Attempt to force you to drop criminal charges?
- Threaten to commit suicide, or threaten to kill you?
- If you answered ‘yes’ to even one of these questions, you may be in an unhealthy or abusive relationship. On this page (link), you’ll find more information on types of abuse, why people abuse and why it’s so difficult to leave. Don’t hesitate to chat or call the National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-7233) if anything you read raises a red flag about your own relationship or that of someone you know.
Often, victims don’t realize that they are in an unhealthy or abusive relationship. One tool advocates use is the “Power and Control Wheel” to help victims understand the overall pattern of abusive and violent behaviors, which are used by an abuser to establish and maintain control over his partner. Very often, one or more violent incidents are accompanied by an array of these other types of abuse. They are less easily identified, yet firmly establish a pattern of intimidation and control in the relationship.
Leaving is not easy. On average, it takes a victim seven times to leave before staying away for good. Exiting the relationship is the most unsafe time for a victim. As the abuser senses that they’re losing power, they will often act in dangerous ways to regain control over their victim. Victims often face stigma or judgement by others who don’t understand “Why don’t you just leave?”
Our advocate provides non-judgmental, caring, and knowledgeable advocacy to help victims finally build new, abuse-free lives.
If you are a Victim of Domestic Violence please call:
Immediate emergency – 911
Victim Advocate – Kelly I. 775-720-0007
- Assistance with Protection Orders
- Court accompaniment
- Social service referrals
- Legal referrals